What is a wedding for, really? We’re long past the time when marriages served as business arrangements between families, or where one half of the partnership needed the other in order to be able to vote or own property.
Human beings still need one another, it’s part of our nature. But why a wedding? In the modern world, does that mutual support still need a white dress and a tiered cake to seal the deal?
We have decided to define our wedding as follows:
Commitment. Modernity may make a long-term commitment possible without a pledge, but there’s a power to the public promise. We want a ceremony where we mark a moment in our lives where we pledge to support one another in all that we hope to achieve. A public pledge of our commitment, and a party to celebrate everything that pledge stands for.
Celebrating our communities. A lot of wedding culture revolves around this being “all about us.” But a wedding that’s “all about the couple” is really just an elopement, and that’s not what we want. We are part of many communities, and part of the joy (and complexity) of planning a wedding is navigating all the ins and outs of bringing those communities together. Our wedding is about us, but it’s also about you, and although we also recognize that making any group of 100+ people all 100% happy isn’t possible, we intend to do our best to honor and take care of our communities as we plan this event.
Uniting our communities. Not just for a cocktail and unspoken dance at a single event, but a genuine opportunity for the people we know and love to meet and get to know one another. Which is why we hope you'll join us for an adventure in Miami for the week before the wedding. Time for aunts to wander the Morikami Gardens and see bonsai together. For cousins from across our families to strap on their heels to salsa at the Ball & Chain. For our friends and family to dive through the reefs of the Florida Keys, and our uncles to roll cigars on the Calle Ocho.
So we invite you to join us for our wedding on February 24, 2024 at the Redlands Koi Gardens, as well as for a variety of events and adventures in the Miami area the week before. And whether you can make it, or must politely decline we sincerely thank you for your love and support, and look forward to our next encounter.
See you next winter!
Laura and Matt