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- Matt & Laura -

Getting Married!

An Exchange of Vows and a Celebration

San Francisco, CA

July 29, 2023

An Exchange of Rings and the Reception 

Tokyo, Japan

July 31 - August 7, 2023

(or stay with us longer!!)

What is a wedding for, really? We’re long past the time when marriages served as business arrangements between families, or where one half of the partnership needed the other in order to be able to vote or own property.


Human beings still need one another, it’s part of our nature. But why a wedding? In the modern world, does that mutual support still need a white dress and a tiered cake to seal the deal?


We have decided to define our wedding as follows:


  • Commitment. Modernity may make a long-term commitment possible without a pledge, but there’s a power to the public promise. We want a ceremony where we mark a moment in our lives where we pledge to support one another in all that we hope to achieve. A public pledge of our commitment, and a party to celebrate everything that pledge stands for.


  • Celebrating our communities. A lot of wedding culture revolves around this being “all about us.” But a wedding that’s “all about the couple” is really just an elopement, and that’s not what we want. We are part of many communities, and part of the complexity of planning a wedding is navigating all the ins and outs of bringing those communities together. Our wedding is about us, but it’s also about you, and although we also recognize that making any group of 100+ people all 100% happy isn’t possible, we intend to do our best to honor and take care of our communities as we plan this event. That’s part of why, with family & friends stretching from Hawaii to Switzerland, we’ve chosen to shoot for a split-location event. 


  • Uniting our communities. Not just for a cocktail and unspoken dance at a single event, but for a genuine relationship. And we hope to kick that off with an adventure. Where opposite uncles can meet for a sake tasting with a sake sommelier. Where cousins can pour through manga in a 6-story anime store in Akihabara. Where our friends can walk through the rose gardens and sunflower fields, and our aunts can blow out their lungs at karaoke


That’s what we’re looking forward to. And whether you can make it to one, both, or neither, we sincerely thank you for your love and support, and look forward to our next encounter. 


Happy spring!
Laura and Matt